Trying to find out what has happened in an average schoolday from H is quite a task.
“So what did you do today?” I’ll ask. “played” will be my one-word reply.
I often know what the answer will be, so tend to ask
“did you fly to the moon today on your lunchbreak, and did your rocket land okay in the playground?” to see what she’ll say.
This often provokes the kind of answer which tells me how ridiculous that is as a situation, and actually she played hopscotch with two of her friends. Result!
So moving onwards, I ask about what she has learned through the day to see if there’s anything we have at home which might enhance that learning. I know this is like her asking me what I did at work all day (she’s going to be so disappointed this week when she comes in for the day) – but still, it’s nice to know something.
What actually happens is we’ll find out what other children are doing. It’s kind of weird. She’ll tell me about her friends who are on the same level of reading as her now, and how “I really need to be one set ahead of them” (where does she get that from?!) and her friends will tell their mums (who tell me) about some maths computer test with initials that she got 100% on.
So we all did the sensible thing and started a Facebook group for our class to be able to share information. We’re all in the same boat – a child who tells their parent everything about their day at school is a rare child. A child who tells their parent about everything else is what I’ve come across.
We don’t know everything, but we know a lot more.
But there are other things. Things like H standing up in assembly and getting her two certificates for football and swimming presented to her by the headmistress. “Ooh! What happened!” I asked, to which she told me nothing, as expected.
Today was our first school fair of the summer and I got chatting to another parent. Turns out his daughter’s class had their assembly yesterday, so he was able to tell me everything that happened. Not that he heard much as H was quite shy, but still!
At some point our children are expected to communicate what they do during the day at school. I can only hope this is when they move into Year 1. Or 2.